Fighting for his family

 — Family Man

Dear Family Man: I am sorry that you and your daughter are going through this. It sounds like your wife has lots of unresolved anger and a difficult time allowing herself to experience the joys of being together and peaceful on Christmas. Needless to say, you would benefit tremendously from working with a professional counselor, or a couples counselor for both of you, to get at the root of the blowups.

Continue to reassure your daughter how much you love her, and when your wife is calm, tell her how sad her daughter was after she left. As far as doing more harm than good, a 17-year-old wants to know that she is loved and safe, even if one parent is acting like a child.

Dear Annie: I just wanted to follow up on your recent columns about the European/continental style of eating questions. The other part of the European versus the American/Canadian way of eating involves our use of the knife. On this side of the Atlantic, we typically use our right hand to hold our forks and switch to our left only when cutting something, such as meat, when we will hold a knife in our right hand. Europeans eat with the fork in the left hand and use their knife with the right and do not switch back and forth like we do.

As someone with a variety of transplanted friends/family, I’ve learned to do both, and I have to admit that while a bit more difficult, the European way does force me to slow down and hence appreciate my meal more.

 — Having Fun With Both Ways

Dear Having Fun: Thank you for your letter. Anything that helps slow down the pace at which people eat seems like a pleasant way to eat.

Dear Annie: I just read your letters about “blah” marriages. All you have to do is ask yourself, “Am I better with or without him/her? Short term? Long term?” If the answer is “with,” then the next question is, “How can I make things even better?”

 — Simple Question

Dear Simple: These questions can help to simplify complicated situations. Thank you for the suggestion.